不完美的完美

　　2009年5月初，新加坡出了一则很特别的公益广告，在电视上播出后，引起极大的争议。这则广告是由新加坡政府社区发展部MCYS（Ministry of Community Development,Youth and Sports）所拍摄，它是一则“支持婚姻”（pro-marriage）的公益广告。
　　主角是一位印度裔太太，悼念着她刚死去的华裔老公。她的悼词和大家预期不同，她竟然当着全体亲友描述着她老公在床上如何的“打鼾”和“放屁”，还当场模仿这些声音！如果老公还活着，应该会窘得想找一个洞钻吧。
　　这部影片的开始，司仪说：“李太太（即那位寡妇），你应该有些话想说。”这位太太上台了，全场静默。
　　“今天，我不是要来赞美的，我不会说他有多好，因为很多人都已经说了。今天我想和大家分享一些能让大家比较不自在的事。”
　　她说，“我想先从他在床上的表现说起。”
　　台下观众眼神都是问号，看着她继续说——
　　“你们都有碰过，早上启动汽车引擎启不动的状况吗？”
　　当场她学了发动引擎的声音，但听起来根本就是打鼾声。这位寡妇学得嘴巴都歪了一边了，这样鼾了两趟，然后幽幽的说：“well，戴维（她的老公）的打鼾，完全像是这样。”
　　大家开始笑了，镜头转到她的女儿，表情显然有点怪，大概是不解为何妈妈要说这件事？有些老夫妻也一边笑一边微皱眉头，这场合好像说这种事不太对吧？
　　“但，打鼾只是开始，”寡妇继续说：“他，也会……放屁！”好像好多人都有类似的经验呢。
　　“有些晚上，他放屁放得太大声，还会被自己惊醒！”
　　全场更是会意的笑了。她说，“戴维会惊慌的问，那……那是什么声音？”
　　“这时候我会说，亲爱的，是隔壁的老狗在放屁啦，放心继续睡吧！”镜头转到好几个太太笑得摀嘴，坐在旁边的老公面露尴尬。
　　台上的寡妇，此时语气一转。
　　“你会觉得，这很好笑是吗？”她缓缓的说，“不过，当戴维真的病得很重时，这些声音至少让我知道，我的戴维仍然活着。”
　　她转头望向戴维的遗照，哽咽了：“现在……我终于再也无法在睡前听到这些声音……” 全场有如冰凝。
　　“到生命的最后，”镜头转向这位寡妇孤单的身驱，看到她缓缓的说，“总是这些小小的事情，让我们永远记得。”（In the end, it's these small things that you remember.）“是这些小小的不完美，一起组成生命的完美。 ”（It's these little imperfections that make them perfect for you.）
　　镜头转向她的儿子和女儿，儿子大约高中年纪，女儿是初中年纪，他们看着台上的母亲，专心听着妈妈说话。
　　“所以我想告诉我的子女，有一天，你也能找到你们生命中的伴侣，他们会像你爸爸在我眼中一样‘不完美得很美’。”（So, to my beautiful children: One day, you too find yourself life partners, who are as BEAUTIFULLY IMPERFECT as your father was to me.）
　　她讲完后，彷佛如释重负，回到一个仍要照顾小孩的妈妈，收起悲伤，坚强起来，拥抱她的小孩。观礼的全都没有痛哭失声，竟都看着前方，那是一种吃惊，这些文字的重量竟然这么重的飘在空中、压在心里。最后，这则广告的结束词是——“Family”。■

 

 

　　It's these little imperfections that make them perfect for you.

　　Mrs. Lee, I believe you have some words to say about the David? Lee brother.
　　I'm not going to sing praise to my late husband, not today. Neither am I going to talk about how good he was. Enough people have done that here. Instead, I want to talk about some things that will make some of you feel...a bit uncomfortable.
　　First of all, I want to talk about what happened in bed. Ever have difficulty starting your engine in the morning? hurrrrrr... Well that's exactly what David snoring sounded like. But wait, snoring wasn't everything. There was also this rear and wind action going on his weights. Some nights, it will be so forceful it will wake him up!
　　"What was that?" He would ask.
　　"Oh, it's the dog." I would say, "Go back to sleep dear."
　　Or you may find these all very funny, but towards the end of his life, when his illness at it's worst, these sounds indicated to me that my David was still alive. And what I wouldn't be given just to hear those sounds again before I sleep.
　　In the end, is these small things that you remember...The little imperfections that make them perfect, for you. So to my beautiful children, I hope one day you too find yourself life partners, who are as beautifully imperfect as your father was to me.■